Dear Inang

Boyfriend

Date Published: April 16, 2020

DEAR INANG,

I started being a fangirl since 2003 from Asianovelas to Korean music, Korean food, Korean culture, Korean language, basta po Korean in general. Una ko naman po naging boyfriend si Choi Minho (charot) bago si Kim Junmyeon (charot again) este ang real life boyfriend ko. We started dating last year and I just want to emphasize that I'm serious with our relationship. Lagi ko naman siya ina-assure na siya pa rin ang priority ko kaysa sa mga oppa ko. He knew from the start even before he started courting me that I'm a FANGIRL. Siyempre 'di ko lang maiiwasan na mag-fangirl lalo na kung may comeback, concert or group/individual projects ang bias group/idol ko but the thing is, 'di pa rin namin maiwasan na pagtalunan ito.

Last year, I went to Korea with my friend, who happens to be a fangirl also, and we were okay before I left but then biglang ang cold na ng replies niya 'pag kinukumusta ko siya. Kala mo naman LDR kami, hay. Anyway po, when I asked him what's wrong, 'yun naman pala nagtatampo kasi he was trying to call me that time but I rejected the call cos I was taking a video sa may COEX Artium kasi they're playing SHINee and EXO MVs. Can't help it kasi favorite groups ko 'yun. Inang, you feel me naman 'di ba, SHINee at EXO po 'yun eh! I immediately called back naman po after that. Tapos nung malapit na birthday niya, I was browsing through Nike shoes kasi alam kong favorite brand niya 'yun eh nahuli niya ako na nakapag order na (he looked at my laptop screen) so I had to make an alibi. I told him na I'm preparing for Junmyeon's birthday kasi 'yung fanclub nagpa-plan na magpadala ng gift for him so sabi ko ipapasabay ko sana then ayun he got mad, Inang! Nakakaloka, ilang araw niya akong 'di pinansin. Sobrang nag-tampo talaga siya pero balik naman sa pagiging malambing nung binuksan niya gift ko sa kaniya at nakita niya 'yung shoes. Lagi siyang naiinis 'pag naaabutan niya akong nanonood ng K-drama or anything korean related kasi bumababa raw self-esteem niya kasi wala naman daw siyang laban sa mga oppa ko. But of course, I kept telling him naman na paghanga lang 'yung nafi-feel ko sa kanila and iba rin 'yung love ko for him. One time, napikon din ako kasi panay parinig siya edi kinuha ko phone niya tapos pinapanood ko ng mga girl group para naman maintindihan niya kung bakit ganoon 'yung appreciation ko sa K-entertainment.

Pero 'yung dilemma ko talaga sa letter na 'to Inang eh dahil sa ginawa kong iyon, sobrang naging fanboy naman siya! Parang ako na 'yung hindi hardcore fan? 'Di naman talaga kami nagbibigayan ng material gift 'pag monthsary namin pero we always make sure na lalabas kami together to eat or try other activities pero dumating sa point na hindi na kami nakakalabas kasi sabi niya wala raw siyang budget so I told him na I can pay naman for both of us but he's saying na he's the guy. Pero kinagulat ko eh 'nung nag-announce ng concert ng BlackPink dito sa Manila, nakita ko na lang 'yung post niya na "LALALISA! CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOU!!" tapos nag-comment 'yung tropa niya kung ano binili niyang ticket, sagot ba naman niya "Pre, VIP siyempre! Kailangan malapit tayo diyan!" Inang, gusto ko bigla manabunot ng lalaki that time eh! So fine sige, 'di ko pinakitang affected ako BUT THEN, TWICE naman ang sunod na pumunta dito. He told me na sa susunod na lang niya ibibigay gift niya sa akin for my birthday kasi 'di raw siya prepared nun sa pagdating ng TWICE kaya naipambili niya ng ticket 'yung para sa gift niya dapat sa akin. And same day ng TWICE concert ang supposedly monthsary celebration namin but nope, move na lang daw kasi nakabili na siya ticket eh. Kahit man lang P150 'di siya nag-tira for me??? Matatanggap ko pa sana kung sabihin niyang "Babe, is it okay if coffee date na lang tayo after concert? Can you wait for me?" kaso hindi eh. :( I'm not saying na I'm expecting any material gifts from him pero 'di ko lang matanggap na may kaagaw ako sa kaniya.  Galit na galit siya 'pag ganoon ako pero tignan mo siya ngayon, mas wala ng time at effort para sa 'kin! Balikan ko na lang si Junmyeon! CHAROT.

Inang, what do you think we should do para naman maiwasan namin ang tampuhan at pagtatalo dahil sa KPOP? And for us to strengthen our relationship? May pag-asa pa ba kami?

 

Thank you so much Inang,

Baby Girl

Dear Baby Girl,

 

First, I think there is always hope. But I also believe you have to first see what EACH of you individually really want. Do you really love him? Does he really love you? For a relationship to work the answer to both of these questions has to be a resounding YES!

 

But what is known as True Love or Deep Love demands sacrifice and this sacrifice has to come from both sides at the right times.

 

I suspect you are both still very young and are still discovering the world. You both have found incredible joy in the world of KPOP as well as other things waiting to be discovered.

 

Perhaps you might want to create a little distance and see how things develop naturally? Enjoy your hobbies. Enjoy your Fandom. And see if you naturally gravitate back to each other without making each other feel constrained to be with each other. It should come naturally and not forced.

 

I do not believe that you need to sacrifice who you are to find true love.. there is always somebody meant for us.

 

Let Love and Commitment develop naturally.

 

You know what they say... You Can't Hurry Love.

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